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Entrepreneurship and DisabilityAre you dreaming of starting your own business but don’t know how?

Want to make a difference in the world yet struggling with illness?

I’ve been there, and in the face of multiple disabilities, I not only consistently defied my prognoses; I overhauled my diet, earned a degree (with honours), built a global business, & launched a worldwide non-profit foundation.

When you have a change-the-world-build-a-business dream and want to see it become a reality, then head this way.

Too many of us are held back by the illness/no time/no money struggles and the world needs what you have to offer. I want to help you live your business dreams too, that’s why I’ve collected all my free business and disability resources here:


Living with disability and starting your own business – interviews with disabled entrepreneurs sharing their stories.

Building a resilient small business – so if you have a flare up, your business doesn’t have to shut down (interview by Esmé Weijun Wang).

Your business comeback – how to bounce back after a business break due to illness.

Creating resilience – coming back stronger after set-backs:

Grace sitting outside with a cup of tea

How I manage business, wellness and life – integrating self care and business work.

Working when ill – how to still get things done.

Bed-bound to business bombshell – the inside story of how I built my businesses.

Dealing with the DWP and benefits agencies in general.

On usefulness – under everything, I believe we want to be of worth.

Being Type-A with chronic illness.

Stack of notebooks with colored pens on top

Why I write and tips on writers block.

Want extra support on your business adventure? I want to help you live your business dreams too, that’s why I’ve created The Phoenix Flight School.

This is a program to support you in living your business – no matter what’s holding you back.

In the mean time, I have a small number of beta coaching spots available so contact me here to discuss.

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Image courtesy of Viktor Hanacek.


In Defense of Doing Nothing

In Defense of Doing NothingI feel it too, the passing of time. The frustration of physical limits. Mounting achievements by your friends and loved ones, when simply getting out of bed feels like climbing a mountain to you.

I know you want all those good things – love, joy, fulfilment, achievement and that’s why on any good day, in any space, reprieve or opportunity you get, you launch. It feels like you haven’t got the luxury of slow-and-steady so you run at life in any moment you can, pushing, pushing, pushing to achieve those long held goals.

Doing is an addiction. (Click to Tweet!)

When we are doing we feel momentum, we feel like we are making change, we don’t have to love (or even accept) where we are now, because it doesn’t matter really, does it? As we are changing it right now and it will change, it will, I know it. Ah, I know it too. And I also know from experience that pushing doesn’t always bring us to what we seek.

We may have worked ourselves ill, but we can’t always work ourselves well.*

And many of us don’t know anything else to try, as trying hard is not just what we do but who we are now, after all this time.

We all need time to rest. In this busy world we are said to be human doings more than beings.

But I need to be.

To be with the sunshine, the morning dew, catches with the dog and a strong heart.

I reject the hungry ghost, always consuming, but never full. We don’t need things as much as we need to use what we have.

To enjoy what is here now and to love.

Rest is essential. But when things get hard and rushed it is the first thing that we give up, that we relinquish – sleep, time off, time together. We give up these necessities all to get work done, to strive towards the joy, the peace the fulfilment we crave.

The secret is: it is ours for the asking the moment we ignore the clamouring voices, turn away from the hustle and bustle and stop.

Joy comes in rest, the things we crave, we need, we hope and pray for can only blossom when we stop pushing for them.

Rest is enoughness, radical trust that things will be ok, if you let the world take care of itself for a time.

Let go. It existed before you and will after you.

We are waiting for you on the other side where it is peaceful. Ease your responsibilities down, circle those tense shoulders. Let your breathing deepen. It is time.

Rest is celebration, we don’t notice joy, magic, the tiny gorgeous moments of new bird song, crazy kitty or dog or child antics, funny smiles and sunrises if we are looking forward all the time.

Rest is that second when your heart lifts in sheer joy at the glory of our world and your own humanity.

Rest is mindfulness, it is being fully alive, fully present. Not on your iPhone or thinking about making the dinner next week. Here and now and the peace within this moment.

Rest can be a cup of tea and a moment of release after a long day. A deep breath before a difficult journey. A phone call with a loved one. An extra half an hour in bed, warm soft and sleepy.

Rest can be half an hour with your journal, an afternoon on your project, on painting your toe nails, time spent on something, which will not earn you income, actively heal your body, tone your thighs or gain you another qualification, but will bring you peace.

Rest is not a time in which we are prohibited, it is a retreat, an oasis, a guarded time of solace, to be.

Your creative spirit cannot be fuelled unless you feed it. Nourish your soul with space, gift yourself rest.

What are your favourite ways to rest? Let me know in the comments below.

* This is not meant as a judgement on me or anyone else. Simply a comment on how my own type-A tendencies were not helpful or healing during the onset of a fatigue illness.

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Image of tiara with text: Accessible Enjoyment: How to Create Joy Everyday (Bad Days Included)Disability and fun can seem incompatible. How can you have fun when you are stuck in bed all day (and not in a good way)? What ways are there to laugh and smile when you are preoccupied with pacing, worrying about benefits, dealing with all the well-intended recommendations to drink more water/eat healthily/try chia seeds and oh yes, the actual chronic illness you are living with every single day? It’s hard, I know.

I really do know as I’ve lived with chronic illness for the last thirteen years. But I’ve also danced in firelight on the beach at sunset, shared my heart on stage with hundreds of people, groomed the horses in milky December light, celebrated my 21st birthday with a long-distance princess party (tiaras and glitter included). I’ve sent lemon cake to my literary agent, had breakfast with San Francisco, road tripped across the country shooting black and white film, held a party in the woods with champagne flutes and silver, starred in a fashion photo-shoot, fallen in love and written endless letters with scrawled handwriting and Rose Maroc scent.

And I believe you can, too.

One doesn’t have to be well to live well. (Click to Tweet!)

It can feel like life is an endless round of pills, doctor’s visits, resting, struggling, symptom management and oh my goodness it’s time to wash my hair again.

I know there’s an idea that if we try/manifest/push hard enough we can be happy all the time. And if we haven’t reached that yet it’s only because we aren’t evolved enough and are still hanging onto ‘judgments’ or ‘limiting beliefs.’ To me, that sounds like perfectionism. I think life includes joy and sorrow and I don’t believe that illness or suffering is in any way a punishment. Instead, I think of the delightful times of life, like moments of light. They shine through, and even when they are past, their glow still suffuses me with joy and peace.

Joyful moments can contain fun and ordinary moments can be made fun. For example, I don’t like taking some of my medicines, and I agreed to take it only if I could have a shot glass to slam after swallowing the disgusting stuff. So now I have a set of pink shot glasses and morning medicine becomes an opportunity for smiles. The medicine doesn’t work well for body shots though, just a warning.

It’s tempting when you have a good day to want to do all the things. I mean all of them, now. It’s like being kept under house arrest and suddenly and unexpectedly allowed out. You don’t know where to go, what to do, how long your freedom will last and quite frankly the pressure of it all is making you close to passing out. I believe that if we can create joy every day then there is not much pressure on wanting to do all the things on our good days.

I’ve made a list of suggestions of ways to create joy in the everyday:


Different Dining

You don’t have to eat at the table (or in bed). Why not try…

Drawing room picnic – Pack a picnic basket and head out into the wilds – or the next room – of your home. We use a special, green blanket for our picnics. It’s perfect to lie out anywhere. Have a seat, look at nature books, imagine an exotic place or enjoy your favourite picnic foods from your childhood. Crust-free, triangular sandwiches and pink lemonade, anyone?

Midnight feast or 7:00 pm brunch – Change things up! Topsy-turvieness every so often can be a great way to add some spice. Have a feast at midnight (think raiding the tuck box). If a midnight feast isn’t feasible, do brunch for dinner; a long, leisurely meal in your pajamas? Talk about energy conservation and luxury!

Book a virtual breakfast date. Nothing starts a day right like a friendly face on Skype or Facetime.

Pick really cool sandwich fillings or salad dressings for the next week.

Have tea from a proper teacup.

Bathing and Beauty Rituals

When you have pain or chronic fatigue bathing and dressing can be such a bore. Let’s make it into an opportunity for self-care instead!

Spa day – If showering/washing is an effort, transform the task into a spa day. Have your beloved wash your hair, and imagine yourself under a waterfall. For years, we have lived in a house with no shower. The only way to wash my waist length hair is for Linus to pour jugs of water over it for me. We’ve made it a romantic ritual, one that is pleasing for us both. Mani/pedi, massages, and homemade lotions and potions all add to the ambiance.

Wear a tiara. In bed. Just because.

Put on a nice dress, or a bright t-shirt.

Put in earrings.

Wear mascara so you are less likely to cry. Cry first.

Cut up magazines to pick a style that works for you.

Paint your nails turquoise, or teal, or copper.

Use lovely hand cream.

Magic up a face scrub from oats and almonds and vanilla. Put it in a glass jar with a lovely label.

Add ginger and fennel to sugar in a huge jar for a super scrub for toning legs.

Wear a fluffy jumper.

Wear something on your head; a hat, a tiara, flowers, it changes the mood.

Resting and Pacing

It’s essential, and it only counts if you are lying still, so I’m told. But here’s the secret – if you are lying still in a darkened room but your mind is roiling with frustration and anxiety, then I’m not sure how much that counts as rest and how much good it’s doing you. Why not try these gentle activities for a period instead?

Paint to music – Get out the paints, put on some music, and paint whatever’s incited by the sounds. Or close your eyes and paint in your mind….

Experiment with morning and evening meditation.

Dance in bed – via Gabrielle Roth.

Try a school or method of exercise made to work with your body, like Feldenkrais or yoga.

Breaking Out

If you are up to going out but worry you’ll pay for it later, try these alternative modes of travel.

Explore your neighbourhood in the dark – When I was very ill, going out during the day was just too much for me. People? Ack! Sunlight? Gah! But the fresh air was still a wonder drug. So we’d go out at 4 am. Take it from me,  the very early morning hours are a marvelous time to explore a city (too late for drunk people, and too early for workers. Good and quiet!) Bear in mind, of course, that if you’re in the country, where there are few streetlights, this game should be adjusted – dusk or dawn is better.

Visit museums (in person or online) – Many museums are free and accessible, and when they aren’t, online tours often are. Get Googling!

Get out of the house, in your mind or physically. Go for a trip, on your feet, in your wheelchair, or through photographs online.

Get in the garden, or grow one with a seed packet and a windowsill tray.

Boredom Busters

Connect: Ring a friend, actually call them on the phone in person. If you haven’t got a friend to call email someone you admire and set up a Skype date. Try to find someone who makes you feel positive rather than someone who can drain your energy. If no one’s available, try Samaritans or a similar group.

Read something completely different – ask the librarian for a recommendation. If you’re housebound, try giving your local library a call or an email.

Make a playlist of your favourite happy tunes.

Photograph every third thing you see.

Write the introduction to your memoir, why not?

Buy some rainbow sharpie pens, play with them.

Try watercolours.

Find a new radio station, go pink, or classical, or rave.

Have a go at a huge canvas, or a tiny one.

Vintage TV shows, Buffy the Vampire Slayer anyone?

Favourite children’s books, reread them.

Read through the archives of your favourite blog.

Turn off Facebook.

A single delicious indulgence – a magazine, something from your wish list, a massage.

Paint it out, embroider and turn your down day into art.

Micro-volunteer and turn your struggles into hope for someone else.

Make a list of things you’re grateful for / happy for.

Get your favourite things together and just ‘play’ with them. Favourite music, books, clothes, letters from loved ones etc.

Compile a ‘Happy Box’. Maybe treat yourself with something from the shops, a collection of items and put them all in a box. When you need it, open it up and take something / everything out. Or let us make one for you at Happy Healing Boxes.

Be aware of the engrossing effects of things like television, computer procrastination etc. and try to avoid prolonged, unstructured sessions.

Read poetry.

Choose a new scarf.

Write, just keep moving your fingers, see what appears.

Re-read all your favourite authors’ books back to back.

Learn about the stars. Go to www.galaxyzoo.org and explore the universe.

Look at a map and learn about new countries, capitals and the world.

Learn to say hello in another language.

Write a poem.

Make a ‘zine.

Sweeten Your Space

Make Change – Some say a change is as good as a break. Trying out an often unused furniture throw, bringing in some plants from outside, maybe even wearing a nice coat or shoes around the house can put us in a different mindset. My vote is for the glitter gold stilettos or the vintage 30s sequin pumps my friend in Alabama sent me.

Put the lamps on to brighten the room.

Pick fresh flowers from the garden.

Burn geranium or rose oil to lift your spirits.

Put a posy of sweet peas on your bedside table. If you can’t get flowers, get bare branches or evergreens from the garden. No garden? No problem – make your own blooms.

Pin up glow in the dark stars on your ceiling, you can even get pink ones you know.

Make a new cushion cover and embroider with radical feminist embroidery.

If you’d like further support, ideas and inspiration check out my lists:

-If you are stuck in bed.

Ways to add cheer.

– Fun and feeling good in winter.

– Ideas for if you are bed bound and bored.

– More fun things to make you smile when ill here.

Healing Boxes

We love creating joyful moments and we’ve set up a company to do just that. Healing Boxes creates boxes of healing goodies to warm hearts …..

For more info, or to order a Healing Happy Box visit www.Healing-Boxes.com

This article was originally published in The Pillow Fort Issue 2 and reprinted here with kind permission.

Image courtesy of Robynlou Kavanagh.