Esmé Weijun Wang is a writer and speaker. Her site, at esmewang.com, is where she provides resources for artists, writers, and makers seeking to build a creative legacy.
Raised in the San Francisco Bay Area, she attended Yale, Stanford, and the University of Michigan, went from intern to Assistant Editor for an international lifestyle magazine, and was a writer and editor at ModCloth before launching Esmé Weijun Wang Productions.
Author of the book Light Gets In, Wang has written for and about in The New Inquiry, Salon, the New Yorker Online, the New York Times, and Clementine Daily.
I’ve admired Esmé’s work for many years and I’m delighted and honoured to share this interview.
We speak about:
– The link between creativity and healing.
– How we can use journalling to support our healing journeys.
– Do’s and Don’ts for supporting someone living with mental illness.
– The one action Esmé would like you to take for your own wellness, today.
Listen to our interview here and head over to Esmé’s amazing website here. Subscribe to her Legacy Notes and get a copy of her amazing Creative Legacy Check-In tool free!
Although I’d wanted to be a TEDx speaker for a long timer – after all, the TED stage is legendary – the experience is quite different to what I’d imagined.
If you are wondering what it’s like to be a TEDx speaker, or how to manage a big event when living with chronic illness and life challenges, then I’m here for you. I’m sharing my experience in the hope that it’s useful – which in many ways, is what speaking is all about.
TEDx begins with an idea worth spreading.
Once you find your idea worth spreading, it needs to be summed up in one sentence. If you can’t do that, it hasn’t been refined enough yet.
Within all this professional development of my speech was a hidden whirl of personal growth.
When getting ready for significant events, it’s not just professional preparation that’s needed.
Working on this level can have deep emotional repercussions around your work, your identity, your brand, your message, your presence, your self.
If you are living with chronic illness or an emotional struggle, this is only intensified.
How to meet this challenge?
Prepare for the emotional aspects:
- Build in Buffer Space: when planning our days we often plan how long we think a task should take, not how long it will actually take us. When planning your TEDx speech or event prep, consider how long a task will actually take, including rest after, or time to settle and regain your equilibrium if the task is an emotional one. Build in Buffer Space before and after a task, notice how the difficulty of the task itself and your energy levels shift.
- Leave Crash Space: do you often find yourself emotionally exhausted after seemingly ‘simple’ tasks? It’s helpful to give yourself a Crash Space – a time to just ‘crash’, stop, pause, rest. To feel your emotions, to express them. So often we are too focused on being ‘together’ and ‘efficient’. Crash Space is your place to be emotionally messy. You can let it all out, and then take action to come back to balance when you are ready.
- Take Your Emotional Toolkit: what do you need to have on hand while you do this deep preparation? I rely on my journal, my iPod stocked with meditations and space outside to breathe and ground myself. When you feel upset or emotional, what is generally helpful to you? If this seems like a difficult question, can you think of the last time you were upset? What did you do then? If what you do to self soothe needs supplies, gather those now and have them on hand.
This is deep work, wellness warriors. Some days it’s true revolutionary struggle, and you need your kit bag with you on the journey.
I can’t wait to take the TEDx stage and see you stepping into your big, brave dreams too!
Clothes that work for your body and life can be challenging to find. Maybe you need Velcro, not buttons, or perhaps things that are easy to pull on and off, or don’t get caught in your crutches or leg splints are essential.
For example: are you looking for something to wear when using your wheelchair?
Let’s think outside the box a moment – who has to stay seated for hours, stay comfortable and not get pressure sores or clothing rubs?
And what do riders wear?
Which come in a hundred and one fabrics, styles, colours, sizes and price points. Super, let’s go jodhpur shopping…And while we are at it, can we borrow clothes from any other disciplines that fit our needs – I think we can!
My favourite clothes to co-opt for accessibility wear:
Great for wheelchair users, designed to be comfortable to sit in for hours, plus lots of fashionable styles available and very affordable.
If like me you want to use to go swimming but don’t move quickly enough to warm up in the chilly water, try the surfer’s solution!
Struggling with laces? Skater shoes are stylish and often have Velcro instead of laces or buckles.
If you sit all day, or if you have abdominal issues, you may find the waistbands of trousers dig in uncomfortably. That’s why dresses are so useful. Look for an empire line with flowing fabrics, like bamboo, and organic cotton jersey. I love KOMODO.
Wide Waist Band Yoga Trousers
One way around the waist band struggle is just to go bigger! Try a wide waistband that spreads the pressure and creates comfort all day. Try Gossypium’s fantastic range.
Sports Bra in the Scanner
A tip from the ever fabulous Kris Carr – if you need to go for a scan, try wearing a sports bra with no metal in it – that way you get to keep your underwear on and still get your scan done!
What’s your favourite item of clothing to co-opt creatively? Let me know in the comments!