I love our earth, I love the cycles and seasons. But for a while now, I’ve been nervous about the coming winter. Last winter I had two pretty severe lung infections and since then I’ve been nervous about winter, infections, feeling like I can’t breathe and having that awful chest pain. The amount of anxiety is disproportionate to the risk of infection, but every time I thought about winter and endless drizzly grey skies I felt tension.
So we decided to re-frame things, and all summer Linus has been helping me put together a Winter Love List. A list of specifically enjoyable activities for cold or wet weather. Some of them are treats we are reserving for the winter months, some are just good things about damp days.
If the current wet weather is getting you down, feel free to dive into my Love List activities and please add your own in the comments!
Grace’s Winter and Wet Weather Love List
Going to the spa or swimming pool and being in warm water when it’s cold outside
Listening to my favourite audio books
Double duvet days – the ultimate luxury. A high-tog duvet over and under you, for total cwtchy comfort
“Cloudy grey days can produce surprisingly beautiful results because the clouds act like a diffuser around the sun, dispersing wonderfully even light across your scene and minimising the risks of harsh shadows and hot spots.” - Instant Love by Jen Altman, Susannah Conway, Amanda Gilligan
If you want to make your Autumn even more amazing, come and join us in The Phoenix Fire Academy! We start next week and there’s just 3 spots left.
If you’ve been wondering, thinking about it, going back and forth, I’d love for you to dive in and join us. This is the only time The Phoenix Fire Academy will run this year and I can’t wait to change your world with you.
It is the moment which changes your life. Sometimes it feels like it is the moment which ends it. The life you knew is gone, you are AD – After Diagnosis, your own new millennium.
Diagnosis can feel like your carefully planned and treasured life burning up around you. That you can see things changing, feel them shifting, but are helpless to stop it.
Diagnosis feels like a fire moving through our lives, consuming all we hold dear, burning our very selves, our image, who we are, and leaving us with little but pain and ash – where there used to be hopes, plans and a maybe not perfect, but truly real life.
Diagnosis can be a signpost on our healing journeys and today I’d like to talk to you about how to cope with, or without, a diagnosis, as well as how to let go of your diagnosis and stop being defined by it. This is about how to navigate your healing journey at whatever stage of the diagnosis you’re in. The diagnosis is just information, it’s not a sentence.
A diagnosis puts a name on your pain, but you can heal without one.
We get to blaze our own trail and write our own story.
Sometimes we are told that our diagnosis, our pain, our challenge can be for good, that we are an ‘inspiration’.
People around us can try to frame our pain and challenges in a positive light as it makes it easier for them to accept. It hurts when our loved ones are hurting. And we want to believe in the best for them.
But having these ideas forced upon us does nothing but cram us into stereotypical boxes – the ‘brave sufferer’, the ‘inspirational cripple’, the bad disabled person who doesn’t do anything to help others.
Selflessness and virtue are not implanted on the day they hand you your wheelchair.
I believe that incurable doesn’t rule out joy.
I believe that our bodies and minds are more powerful than we can even contemplate.
I believe that the world is waiting for us.
I believe that healing is always an option, that doctors are not God and that we can know our bodies.
I believe that how things are is not how they have to stay.
I believe that trust is exactly what the planet needs right now.
I believe life can flow and my arms are open to that.
I believe that we need role models for sustainable wellness, not just miracle cure stories, so I became one.
I believe that with passion, pain cannot hold us back.
I believe that there is always a way.
I believe that living well is my happy ending.
I believe that I am staking my claim to freedom and I’m so blessed to have you alongside me.
I believe we can move through a life that leaps off the page in beautiful living colour, transforming challenges and living well, every-beautiful-day.
But at the beginning my diagnosis began to consume me. It was as though I wasn’t Grace anymore; merely a case study, a host for the pain ravaging my body, a curiosity and a walking, talking diagnosis. I felt like I was being subsumed in the medical system and was losing everything that made me, me. Are you still yourself when you don’t look or sound or feel like you? Are you still you when you can’t do the things you love? When you are told you may never be able to again? Do you know yourself when it doesn’t feel like your body, it’s not home anymore and you don’t recognise yourself in the mirror?
When we are newly diagnosed, it can feel like our lives are burning up around us. Everything we know is changing or gone. And it seems like everything we touch turns to ash. There’s nothing left anymore and no path on which to go forward.
I decided then, that if everything was burning up and I couldn’t stop it, maybe I still had a choice. Maybe I could allow the fires of diagnosis to be like phoenix fire – they were burning me up and the self I had known.
But like a Phoenix, I vowed that it would burn through and leave me better.
Maybe this could be an opportunity and a renewal. I could emerge strengthened from the fire, more burnished and beautiful because of it. That my hurting places would become stronger because of their cracks and I would arise, leaving everything I no longer needed in the ashes.
The fire eats us, consumes us and our hearts, and purifies us. We can let go and turn to ash or we can use the fire as transformation, to temper and refine us. We can emerge stronger, we can be reborn.
Your diagnosis does not define you. You are more than the label they gave you. Let’s discover the new you together. Enroll in The Phoenix Fire Academy today.
After graduating from The Phoenix Fire Academy you will:
Have a deeper understanding of your own diagnosis and options.
Carry a toolkit of coping strategies to manage the ups and downs of illness and pain.
Know how to cope on good days, bad days and all the days in between.
Feel like you love your body as it is, right now.
Come away with a personalised Healing Blueprint to use for life.
Be part of a strong community of women to heal and growth with.
Feel seen and understood.
Know you are in just the right place.
Be confident in your health choices.
Learn to spend money on only what you need (no more regretting your health purchases!)
Have a Healing Team of professionals working with – and for – you.
No longer have white-coat fear.
I’ll be teaching you everything I’ve learned in 14+ years of living with chronic illness, being an award-winning wellness provocateur and studying under renowned teachers, worldwide. In a myriad of ways, with tangible, innovative methods and tools exclusive to our program.
PLUS access to a Healing Team, a personalised Healing Blueprint and a community of tenacious, empathetic women wrangling their struggles, celebrating their victories and turning Trail Blazer alongside you.
You have a chronic illness, pain or struggle, yet still want to live well.
You are ready for a change.
You believe in yourself and your possibilities…or want to.
You know that there’s a space between miraculously cured and giving up.
You recognise that your disabilities are simply the footnotes of your life. And that your life can be a beautiful, true adventure story.
The Phoenix Fire Academy is NOT for you if:
You are looking for a magic bullet.
You believe that illness and pain are signs of a lack of personal growth.
You criticise others.
Questions, Answers…and Deciding if PFA is For You
Second thoughts about signing up? Resistance often comes up when taking big, bold steps, but it doesn’t have to hold you back! We want you to be 100% confident, and excited to get on board with Phoenix Fire!
I don’t have enough money
Money is tight, I understand! I’ve been there. Cash disappears quickly when contending with illness and medicine along with the regular necessities. The Phoenix Fire Academy is designed to help LOWER your monthly expenditure with a healing plan that is tailored to you, your lifestyle AND budget.
I don’t have enough time.
Managing symptoms, dealing with daily tasks and simply feeling under par takes up a whole lot of the day. Imagine what could happen when you re-claim this precious time? What will you be able to do? The possibilities are endless. The Phoenix Fire Academy is a short investment of time into something that will liberate your time for years to come.
I’m already overwhelmed.
Illness itself is overwhelming. There is so much information, so much pain and pressure coming at you all at once. From the largest issues and decisions (life saving treatment “A” or “B”?) to the minutiae of buying a safe shampoo with extreme allergies. The decision-making process when ill or during struggle can confound – and paralyze. The Phoenix Fire Academy will help de-code and streamline this type of all-important process.With my 14+ years of work and research, you’ll be instructed on how to implement my tried and true overwhelm-busting methods. And, you get a supportive community, paced learning (with the option to take as long as you need), on-going support and the promise of a plan that will put all the decisions you need to make into place. It’s time to exhale. Let’s do this together.
I can’t make a decision today. I need to think about it.
No problem! I’d love to help you decide. Sign up for a Phoenix Fire Freebie http://gracequantock.com/phoenix-fire-freebie/ and together we’ll see if this is a great fit for you. But don’t wait too long, we only have a few spaces left! And the course won’t run again until 2015 (at which point it won’t be 50% off).
I can do this by myself. There’s tons of free information online to teach me how to live with illness.
You are a clever, strong, capable person. And maybe you can do it by yourself – in many ways, I did.
But why should you have to?
We all need teachers and allies – why deprive yourself of the support you need and deserve? Get quiet and ask, how is it working out, trying to deal with it all on your own? How does it feel?What were you looking for when you came to this site?If you love what I share here, The Phoenix Fire Academy will rock your world. And you deserve a break, beautiful. You’ve had to be strong, alone, for so long.
“Olympians don’t become champions from reading information.” ~ Erika Lyremark, Master Coach
Learning to live well with illness is not just about information. You need the feedback and support from the experienced coach and a supportive community. And honey, you will get it with PFA.
Are going to teach me a “method” that worked for you and but may not work for me?
No. In the first half of The Phoenix Fire Academy we’ll delve into your story and situation and then together, we will build a plan to go forward. A plan that’s tailored to you, your needs, symptoms, situation, budget and lifestyle.
Why are you charging for this?
We intrinsically put effort into the programs and methods for which we pay. Why? Because we choose to pay for that which is valuable.The Phoenix Fire Academy has worth that will extend far beyond your graduation date – a great source of pride for us, who have put countless hours of our own time, resources and professional training into creating such a unique investment. PFA is a program of deep worth. And we’re confident that the value you are receiving, the impact that PFA will have on your life, makes the investment both a wise and modest one.
Will there be any discounts offered to enroll in The Phoenix Fire Academy? Can I apply for a scholarship?
For our inaugural class, we are offering the PFA for a full 50% off. When the program runs again in 2015, this offer will no longer apply.
There will be 1 scholarship offered – keep your eyes peeled for details!
I have been ill for so long. It feels like I always have been and that there’s no way anything will change. Nothing else has worked for me…how is The Phoenix Fire Academy any different?
I felt the same way when I began my own journey. I’d tried everything. But something changed, clicked…and slowly, I began forming a new life. I searched, pooled, adapted and used a different kind of healing environment. With tools, methods and means that gave my body what it needed to be well. It paid off. Bigtime. The rest is history, and a global Trail Blazing movement. If you’ve tried everything, or are just starting out, you owe it to yourself – your body, your happiness! – to give The Phoenix Fire Academy a chance. It’ll pay off for you too.
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