• Relaxation Rehabilitation Part Four: How to Rest and Make it Fun

    Lying down and doing nothing can be what is needed but sometimes our brains feel like they are racing and we need a gentle activity. Here are some suggestions: 1. Sanctuary. Imagine an inner safe place where you can go and feel calm, go there now. 2. Senses. Use relaxing sensory experiences. What is relaxation to you? What invokes relaxation and the sensation of ease? It could be falling asleep,the knowledge of nothing to do, a massage, a hug, a warm bath, the smell of clean linen, candle light, the sea and the beach. whatever it is for you, create or invoke it to relax today. Use smell, taste, colour and imagery.…

  • Relaxation Rehabilitation Part Three: Solutions for Resting Problems

    * When you struggle to switch your mind off try using mindfulness techniques. Observe the thoughts, the desires, the intense need to sit up and write something down or just look at that. Watch the flood of emotions, guilt, frustration, fear, unworthiness all come up and pass away. Let it all happen. It’s not you, you are the space in between the thoughts. * When you stick with it, the thoughts and tension begin to ease. At the beginning it can be very painful as the secondary tension related pain in the muscles releases. This passes and blood flows more easily. Remember in this difficult moment, you are helping your…

  • Relaxation Rehabilitation Part Two: The Great Big Fear

    Illness can be uncomfortable and messy. Rest can seem boring. Before I reframed my thinking, when I was resting I felt sick. I had to rest, I could not carry on with whatever activity I was doing. I came face to face with the reality of the sickness. We get scared, and we are scared of losing dignity, life, hope, purpose, independence, and respect. And yet we are overcoming that fear every day we live with illness, or that we live as a survivor of illness. We are so much more, because of overcoming all this; not less. The fact that we are still managing to keep on even with…

  • Relaxation Rehabilitation: Part One

    I don’t know about you but I need more rest. I’d write that I lack rest but really the problem is the over-fullness. What I am lacking is nothingness, space, peace. I have been holding resentment around rest, and that makes it ineffective as well as unenjoyable. Rest is not something which is spoken about much in our societies. Maybe resting isn’t as glamourous as planning out your dream life, striving towards it, overcoming odds or fighting for your goals. But rest is essential, and it is in that space that the flowers and fruits of our labours blossom. (Click to Tweet!) Attitudes to In-Action Sometimes it can feel like…

  • What To Do When Things Aren’t OK

    Stop, take a deep breath, and now let it out. Stay with me here. I know it’s hard right now. I know it hurts. Maybe it hurts more than you can bear, more than you should be asked to bear. But it’s happening and so we are going to deal with what is here. Can you try to breathe? If you feel dizzy or sick, maybe lie down. I always used to lie down on the floor when I got panic attacks, often because practically speaking, if I’m going to hyperventilate and pass out I’m less likely to be injured if I’m closer to the floor. And people don’t mind…

  • Get Connected! With the World At Large…and Our “Secret” Vlog

    Have you seen my Wellness Provocateur Vlog? If not, what are you waiting for? Check it out. (You’ll be glad you did!) But I’ve got a secret. Vlog, that is. And it hasn’t been public…until now. It’s the L & B WALK VLOG! You see, Linus and Bertie go for a walk every day, and although we love our wheelchair ride adventures, I can’t always go with them. Not wanting me to miss out on this very special time, Linus created the L & B Walk Vlogs to share the joy. And there is so much joy to be had out and about with my husband and pup! Seeing the…

  • A Hundred Thousand Dreams

    This Earth, all its birdsong, orchids, teacups, and toffee is already a living paradise. Perhaps we incarnate to experience sheer joy. For ourselves and for the Divine. After all, God/dess cannot run through a field, play with a puppy, paddle in the sea, enjoy a foot rub, savour freshly picked broad beans or make love. But we can. And through us, God/dess feels the delight. We need to feel joy so the Divine can experience these treasures. The world is meant to be beautiful. It is beautiful. In the Celtic traditions the world has good and bad equally alike; where curses are blessings and the bitter pain gives life its piquant sweetness. I cannot…

  • Get Your Scribbles Going: Story Contest!

    Oh, yes! Grab your pens or Dragon Speak headset, it’s time for a story contest! And the entries are bound to be doozies. Will yours be one of them? As a person with a disability, how many times have you heard: “I knew a girl in a wheelchair like you; Her life is over.” “God did this to you.” “Have you tried walking/exercising/drinking more water/prayer/goji berries?” “What’s wrong with you? What’s your prognosis? What do the Doctors say?” “Will you ever walk again?” “Were you born like this?” “Can you have children?” “Will you live?” “My aunt died of that.” “Well you did always used to ——- so I always…

  • From Sick Chick To Trail Blazer: My Story

    When I was 22 the doctor told me that he thought I had sarcoma, bone cancer. I was terrified. Everything spun in double time. I desperately longed to rewind. One of my friends had sarcoma, so I knew about the illness and the grueling rounds of chemo. I’d had friends die from cancer. I’d been living myself with serious illness for many years already. Like many people faced with a new diagnosis, I knew these things happened but I was totally unprepared when my time came. The (many, many) blood tests began. And the waiting. Two long weeks of awful, maddening, waiting. Followed by a merciless, unforgiving fear. It was…

  • I Was, Now I Am: From Fear To Liberation

    I was a sick chick and now I’m a wellness trailblazer. I was defined by my diagnoses. Now I’m redefining what it means to live and work with chronic illness. I was written off as broken, for no one had seen someone so ill survive. I was scared and redundant, complicit in the belief that my physical limitations limited my possibilities as a person. Not anymore. I’m creating a world that works with my strengths. And makes them stronger. I used to use a wheelchair and I still do. This is not a miracle cure story. It is a story of liberation. That liberation is my happy ending…and a magical…

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