Beyond Good and Bad

overhead shot of a cup with a hand wrapped around the side and  tea with lemon and ginger insideI don’t know about you, but as much as I appreciate and value people I know, choose and trust offering me refinement, celebration, feedback, reflection advice and wisdom…

I don’t much like people telling me what I can and can’t do.

Especially as most of it turns out not to be true.

I’ve turned Trail Blazer, remember?

I mean if I’d listened to all the people who told me I couldn’t do something, I certainly wouldn’t be here writing to you today.

And so I don’t really like categorizing my life into ‘that’s not for me’. Of course there are things I have no desire to pursue – recreational drugs, roller coasters, and alcohol spring to mind. But here’s the thing, I could do them if I wanted to, I just choose not to (apart from the drugs, that’s illegal. Stay legal, darlings).

Instead of saying, ‘I can’t do that,’ I focus on what I want and what behavior will support that goal.

I practice this philosophy in many parts of my life:

– I could stay up and finish this project, but I want to feel well, so I choose to sleep instead.

– I can eat a huge plate of chips with loads of hummus (I’m vegan, I eat hummus with everything, it’s like our butter) but I want to feel good in yoga tonight, so I choose a quinoa salad with miso tahini dressing (want recipes? Head here

– I’m upset and I really wish I drank alcohol because something to dull the emotional pain sounds pretty good right now. But I’d rather be congruent and stay present with my feelings so I check in with what I need and nourish myself with journaling, horse/dog/furry therapy and ritual.

If I want to feel optimum, I choose optimum behaviors. (Click to Tweet!)

If I’m ok with feeling less than optimum, then maybe I will do something that doesn’t feel quite so good but that I need right then.

If you’d like to read more about my Optimum and Non-Optimum practice, it’s all in my new ebook, along with interactive worksheets and examples. Grab your copy here.

How do you differentiate your activities? Do you grade yourself bad/good? Please respond in the comments below.

Featured image courtesy of Dominik Martin (via

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