• Space to Grow…into JOY

    A few weeks ago a repairman stood in our drawing room, looked around and asked, “So, my love, when are you moving in?” I was shocked. We’ve lived here nearly 7 years. Looking back, I can see why he was confused. The floor was covered in cardboard boxes full of things to donate, sell or recycle. All our paintings were down from the walls, and we’d removed nearly all the furniture. All that remained was a table, two chairs, and an earthenware jug of sunflowers on the chimney piece. I loved it. A blank slate, a clear space to grow into. The story behind all this, of course, is much…

  • How I Manage Business, Wellness and Life

    As a wellness provocateur and disabled entrepreneur I’m often asked about how I manage business, wellness and life. I am sharing my answer here (with permission from the person who asked). Q: When personal matters grow overwhelming, how do you refocus so that you can effectively run your businesses? This has been on my mind lately; I have more clients right now than ever, which is exciting, but I’m also feeling my symptoms worsen. And I’m not in crisis mode, either, so am not sure of how to proceed.  A: It’s challenging that more clients can come, but bring more pressure too. It’s not often talked about, but it’s totally a…

  • Wellness in Dark Weather: Grace’s Winter Love List

    I love our earth, I love the cycles and seasons. But for a while now, I’ve been nervous about the coming winter. Last winter I had two pretty severe lung infections and since then I’ve been nervous about winter, infections, feeling like I can’t breathe and having that awful chest pain. The amount of anxiety is disproportionate to the risk of infection, but every time I thought about winter and endless drizzly grey skies I felt tension. So we decided to re-frame things, and all summer Linus has been helping me put together a Winter Love List. A list of specifically enjoyable activities for cold or wet weather. Some of…

  • Diagnosis: A New View

    It is the moment which changes your life. Sometimes it feels like it is the moment which ends it. The life you knew is gone, you are AD – After Diagnosis, your own new millennium. Diagnosis can feel like your carefully planned and treasured life burning up around you. That you can see things changing, feel them shifting, but are helpless to stop it. Diagnosis feels like a fire moving through our lives, consuming all we hold dear, burning our very selves, our image, who we are, and leaving us with little but pain and ash – where there used to be hopes, plans and a maybe not perfect, but…

  • Ready to Rise? More Phoenix Fire Details!

    The Phoenix Fire Academy: A powerful, new program to nurture your rise from the ashes and embolden you to blaze a fiery, fabulous trail full of possibility. Are you:  Tired of constantly being tired? Fed up of with trying out new healing modalities but never seeing lasting change? Drowning in the chaos of a new diagnosis? Done with circling the healing block only to end up where you began? Near tears from the skeptical looks and questions from people you thought would understand? Being told there’s “no cure” by your doctor and unsure where to turn? Sure there must be a better way than this, but don’t know where to…

  • Announcing The 2014 Phoenix Fire Academy

    This is a love letter. To you who’s been diagnosed. Has struggled with long standing illness. Whose obstacles are dictating your limits, and whose true and purest potential has been hemmed in. This is an invitation.  To you, whose old life has been burned away by adversity. You, who has a fire smouldering at your centre. A hunger for a new way. A new beginning. To take your diagnoses and hardships and turn them into something else. Something different. Something abundant. Something better. This is that opportunity. A turning point. Disability doesn’t mean isolation and fear. Diagnosis doesn’t mean the end of joy, fun, ease and freedom. Your challenges can be…

  • Living Well With Fatigue

    Do you consistently have enough energy? No? You aren’t alone. And while this isn’t a bulleted, 10-point-quick-fix article full of ginseng and grandiose promises, it is one neatly packed with valuable concepts to add some pep to your step. These thoughtful approaches have helped me live well, with fatigue and chronic illness for over 10 years, while earning a degree and building two thriving businesses. Living with illness that features symptomatic fatigue often leaves me too exhausted to sit up or turn over in bed. That same exhaustion may also have me regard basic tasks with a humdrum eye, “I don’t feel up to doing that right now…maybe I’ll try later…

  • Relaxation Rehabilitation Part Four: How to Rest and Make it Fun

    Lying down and doing nothing can be what is needed but sometimes our brains feel like they are racing and we need a gentle activity. Here are some suggestions: 1. Sanctuary. Imagine an inner safe place where you can go and feel calm, go there now. 2. Senses. Use relaxing sensory experiences. What is relaxation to you? What invokes relaxation and the sensation of ease? It could be falling asleep,the knowledge of nothing to do, a massage, a hug, a warm bath, the smell of clean linen, candle light, the sea and the beach. whatever it is for you, create or invoke it to relax today. Use smell, taste, colour and imagery.…

  • Relaxation Rehabilitation Part Three: Solutions for Resting Problems

    * When you struggle to switch your mind off try using mindfulness techniques. Observe the thoughts, the desires, the intense need to sit up and write something down or just look at that. Watch the flood of emotions, guilt, frustration, fear, unworthiness all come up and pass away. Let it all happen. It’s not you, you are the space in between the thoughts. * When you stick with it, the thoughts and tension begin to ease. At the beginning it can be very painful as the secondary tension related pain in the muscles releases. This passes and blood flows more easily. Remember in this difficult moment, you are helping your…

  • Relaxation Rehabilitation Part Two: The Great Big Fear

    Illness can be uncomfortable and messy. Rest can seem boring. Before I reframed my thinking, when I was resting I felt sick. I had to rest, I could not carry on with whatever activity I was doing. I came face to face with the reality of the sickness. We get scared, and we are scared of losing dignity, life, hope, purpose, independence, and respect. And yet we are overcoming that fear every day we live with illness, or that we live as a survivor of illness. We are so much more, because of overcoming all this; not less. The fact that we are still managing to keep on even with…

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