Why I wrote Beyond the Boundaries
I have been bed bound and house bound, through illness and pain. I tried to fight against the limits, to circumnavigate them, to ignore them, to expand them. Then I arrived here, at living with well within my own four walls.
I realised that I could be empowered, fabulous and joyful – right now. Not when I’d finally cured myself against all the doctor’s prognoses or when I’d finally ‘got better’, because what is getting better? When does one reach it? How does one realise? Is it when you can do what you did before – before you became ill, before you had caring responsibilities or before the difficult thing(s) happened?
But we are different now, we’ve gone through something extraordinary, and in our survival, we’ve grown extraordinary ourselves.
You can’t find a way back to ‘before’, but you can find a way onwards to live well. So can I.
I still live with pain and symptoms and yes, I’m still living with and managing the effects of the conditions every day. But I am happier (and in many ways healthier) than when I got ill. So in that way, I have got better. There has been true healing.
Healing is different from curing. We may not be cured, we may never go back to the life we had before we were sick, we may never live a life 100% free of the conditions we are managing, but we can all be healed, even those dying can be healed.
“Sometimes healing is not about getting better as much as about letting go of everything that isn’t you. All of the expectations, all the beliefs and becoming who you are.”
– Rachel Naomi Remen
Healing can be of the moment, noticing some part of your body of your body which feels good or something in your life that you are pleased about. That despite all the pain, fear, exhaustion, problems, that there is still, some part of your life that brings you some ease for a second and a smile.
This is what we will be looking towards here. In this work some find physical healing, some people recover, some don’t, but that’s not the point here, it’s more of a side effect…
We are looking for healing and living well and we can all achieve that.
If you’re here because you are stuck in bed or at home (short or long term) and wondering how to cope, you aren’t alone…
If you’re stuck in bed and bored,
If you feel lonely, sad and left out,
If struggling with self-care (or lack of it) drains your energy and leads to spiralling self-criticism or shame,
My writing process
I write to find my way home.
I write because I need these words too.
I was wishing someone would write them for me, looking for a role model, for someone to show this was possible, and when I couldn’t find one, I had to become my own.
I write because I’ve been writing since I could hold a pencil. I have journals from when I was 5 years old onwards. I wrote before the Internet, before an audience. I write to discover what my heart is saying.
I write because it’s what I know how to do, and do well enough.
I write because it seems people need to hear what I have to say. Because I’ve been through things many people never come close to, and it’s my path to share how to navigate that.
How I write
I generally write first thing in the morning. Or in the car before an appointment. Or in my day bed. Or on public transport.
I write anywhere and everywhere, on anything and about whatever is ready to come forth. However if you are interested in specifics, I do love:
- Using an old-school, actual, real-life notebook. I keep one next to my bed for ideas-in-the-night and one with me all day for snatches of words that appear on the run.
- I really rely on my editor. Editing is an incredibly important part of writing, harder for me than the writing itself. There’s also the awareness that it could always be better; it will never be done. But perfectionism can kill you, kill your writing, make other humans suffer. Because someone out there might be waiting for your words, and your doubt is holding them back – they need you, why are you making them wait any longer?
The secret inside Beyond the Boundaries
Looks like a book, inside it’s a revolution:
- When you live beyond the boundaries, you see your bed as a launch pad for living your life.
- When you live beyond the boundaries, you learn to transcend your limits in everyday life.
- When you live beyond the boundaries, you don’t have to wait until things are perfect to be happy.
You aren’t broken, you’re breaking boundaries.
Inside this ebook is empowerment, inclusion and accessible coping tools.
I became so frustrated with healing options that felt totally inaccessible. Whose only revolution was to attempt – yet again – to ‘fix’ and ‘cure’ me. When this failed, I was left feeling more broken and stuck than ever before.
So I wrote Beyond the Boundaries as a message and a manual for living now, not when we are ‘cured’, ‘fixed’ or finally ‘acceptable’ but today. In this messy, imperfect, painful, potential-filled moment.
This is an experiential, inclusive experience. Through the book, you’ll be guided to create your own Limits Liberation Plan, your own guide to living well, (wherever you are).
You’ll finish with a completed, accessible self-care plan that fits you.
My dreams for Beyond the Boundaries
Beyond the Boundaries: Finding Freedom & Fulfilment Within Four Walls. Self-Care Edition is delivered as an audio book and a PDF. You can read it or lie back and listen to me read to you.
I have tried to make it as accessible as possible but I am learning all the time and I welcome feedback.
I dream of Beyond the Boundaries reaching people stuck in bed and struggling. It has already surpassed that dream and is spreading beyond all I had envisaged. I have messages from people listening to the audio book to manage pain and anxiety, to soothe them to sleep, to dip in and out of as they work through the blueprint creation process.
Mostly, I want Beyond the Boundaries to support you and your dreams.
If you want to see if it’s a fit for yours, you can:
Listen to a free sample here:
Download a free sample here:
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Do you have a question about Beyond the Boundaries or my behind-the-scenes writing process? Let me know in the comments!