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Image of a white and black cat lying on a white background. Text on top: Sleeping Struggles? 10 Easy and Effective Tips to Try
Do you ever find that sleep eludes you?

For something so vital, so many of us do not get nearly enough. 

So often sleep can seem like time wasted, when the to-do list is growing and the world is moving onwards, who has time for snoozing in bed? 

Have you ever stayed up an hour later – just to get that task finished off?

Did you know that when you loose an hour of sleep, you don’t gain an hour of productive time? Not at all, in fact, you reduce your productivity greatly with each hour you give up. 

I learned this doing the research for my Successful Sleeping Workshop. It shocked me, and it made me go to bed earlier!

(We teach what we need to learn).

The problem is when we are in bed, how can we actually get to sleep? With whirring minds and spinning thoughts, how on earth does sleep come?

Well, I have some suggestions…

  1. Mindful Moments

Does your mind spiral and run riot when you lie down to sleep? If so, Mindful Moments may help. If we do this, if we syphon off some of the roaring thoughts that live in all of our monkey minds, then they won’t ambush us the moment our head hits the pillow. 

If we do this, if we syphon off some of the roaring thoughts that live in all of our monkey minds, then they won’t ambush us the moment our head hits the pillow. 

If you have worries waking you up at 3 am, maybe they need somewhere to be released in the day. Mindful Moments give you that.

We can stop and take the time to appreciate our surroundings and be here now. The sound which could be irritating can become an exercise in letting go or can become a sound-scape: a landscape of sound. Do the sounds, smells, textures or sights around you bring up any images or feelings for you? We are just expanding our awareness, not cataloguing or engaging just bringing closer awareness to this moment.

The sound which could be irritating can become an exercise in letting go or can become a sound-scape: a landscape of sound.

Do the sounds, smells, textures or sights around you bring up any images or feelings for you?

We are just expanding our awareness, not cataloguing or engaging just bringing closer awareness to this moment.

Do the sounds, smells, textures or sights around you bring up any images or feelings for you? We are just expanding our awareness, not cataloguing or engaging just bringing closer awareness to this moment.

Many people say they do not have time for meditation or mindfulness practice, but it is not something that has to take hours.

Several of my teachers recommend a “3-minute” breathing space, and Sue Weston, my Tai Chi Qui Gong teacher actually talks about a “3-second” exercise.

As she says, no-one is too busy for 3 seconds! Whatever you do, just do it, stop, breathe, be.

An exercise for 3 seconds is still powerful, no-one is saying it will solve everything and you may still be agitated but it is a practice, your body practices stopping and resting, the more you get into it the body remembers and the practice deepens.

If it takes the edge off your tension the tiniest bit it is still worth it.

No magic pill but practice, experience and kindness of living in our bodies and hearts.

2. Create a Self-Care Kit

Let’s get to work with our treasure chests: create a treasure chest of joys, of happy activities, pleasant memories, blessings, gratitudes, favourite things. Put it together and use it when you can’t sleep.

Put in things to help you cope; a relaxation c.d, a journal, whatever is right for you.

Check out my guide to making your own Self-Care kit here. 

Or let me design a bespoke care kit for your needs, through my award-winning non-profit, Healing Boxes

Once you have your Self-Care Kit, then you can create a Strong-Box, this can be a box or chest that you keep somewhere, either physically or mentally, you put all your problems, sorrows and worries into it.

You can do it before you enter your home in a chest by the door or before you sleep or sit down to a meal with your family.

A chest is safe, it is designed to hold things.

If you really need to you can put your worries there for a while, take a break and if you need to you can pick them back up afterwards. This is somewhere that can store all your “baggage and burdens” until you can handle them alone or with a therapist, coach or trusted friend. 

3. Restful Environments

I’ve had a lot of success with sleep care. It is very simple but remarkably powerful.

Basically, you make sure the room/area where you sleep is conducive to rest and reserve it for rest only.

Aim for calming decorations, I’m not suggesting redecoration but there are easy things to do. If the walls are not a restful colour, (and it doesn’t matter which colour, as long as you consider it restful), then you can cover them with pictures or wall hangings.

Create your own home “Bedscape“.

You can put covers or sheets over any open bookcases or shelving units so that you are not looking at stimulating or work related things at night. If you can’t devote a room entirely to sleeping, (and many of us can’t), then try and have the desk or television facing away from the bed.

Try to make sure you only sleep in bed. You don’t eat in bed, or watch television or read, you just sleep there. This means that you begin to associate your bed and the room with sleep and rest and so sleep and rest come more easily to you there.

Another important part of sleep is the routine. Try a regular bedtime and rising time and a bedtime routine. You turn getting into night clothes, brushing teeth, bedtime prayers, whatever you do in the evening into a calming, relaxing routine.

Make sure your room is dark, if you need to, put up blackout curtains.

When I first did this I couldn’t prioritise blackout curtains in our budget, so I bought blackout material and tacked it to the inside of our normal curtains and it worked wonderfully.

Put opaque tape over any glowing lights from c.d players or digital clocks, if you can manage without them at night.

If you may need the clock then try and put something in front of it that you can move if you need to see the time. It can be useful to try and make sure that all electronic devices (especially mobile phones) are at least an

It can be useful to try and make sure that all electronic devices (especially mobile phones) are at least an arm’s length away from the bed as we don’t want to sleep bathed in EMFs (electro-magnetic frequencies).

4. Dietary Detecting 

It seems obvious, but needs mentioning, especially as one friend was struggling with insomnia and it turned out she was having so much coffee daily that she was struggling with the caffeine and that was why she couldn’t sleep until three am every night!

Cut out or at least cut down the coffee. Try alternatives to coffee after midday. Try to do something other than television or using devices for at least an hour before bed and try to eat before seven pm.

What would it feel like to wind down with a calming herbal tea or whatever is suitable for you? Try it and see…

5. Best Bed Investigations

Is your bed comfortable? Let’s make it so! If your back hurts every morning then your mattress could be too old, and it could be time to get a new one.

If you don’t have the money right now then perhaps you could get a mattress topper for now and then save up.

Disclaimer: If your back hurts every morning you also need to get your doctor to check that out.

Most pillows need changing every three months because they lose their support and because of dust mites.

Go for dust mite free bedding if you can and use as many pillows as you need.

I used to have so many pillows for all my aches and pains and to go under my legs at night, but now I’ve found something that works brilliantly: the N:rem Sleep System.

Everybody experiences pain differently.

We know that it moves and affects different parts of the body at different times.

That’s why a basic mattress doesn’t offer a comfortable solution to a good night’s sleep.

N:Rem bed offerimage of caucasian woman on a bed

I’ve been trialling the N:Rem mattress for over a month and I’ve been astonished at how much difference it’s made to my pain.

The N:rem Sleep System is a completely customisable mattress that’s been designed especially for chronic pain sufferers who struggle to get comfortable at night.

The interchangeable foam tablets in soft, medium and firm allow you to tailor your own comfort and support to get the right set-up that’s unique to you – and you can swap them around whenever your pain moves.

N:Rem have extended an exclusive discount when you buy an N:rem mattress using this unique voucher code: TRAILBLAZER

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6. Building a Back-Up Plan

Worrying about sleep doesn’t help us sleep. I know it is almost impossible not to worry but meditation, audio books, relaxation exercises and so forth can all be used to help you rest in bed if you cannot sleep.

Let’s make a back-up plan. If you can’t sleep, what will be your sanctuary? Imagine and inner safe place where you can go and feel calm, can you go there now?

What is relaxation to you?

What invokes relaxation and the sensation of ease?

It could be a massage, the knowledge of nothing to do, a hug, a warm bath, the smell of clean linen, candlelight, the sea and the beach…whatever it is for you, create or invoke it to relax today.

Use smell, taste, colour and imagery.

Is there something that you like to look at that makes you feel relaxed? A place, or view, or a picture or object. Gather these and use them.

7. Planner Priorities 

Give yourself some space.

Plan some space into the day and then in it ask yourself what you want to do?

Rather than thinking “I need to rest, I will plan a restful activity and Get It Done.”

Just plan some space, plan it into your schedule like an appointment, it is an important appointment with You.

This appointment is you, it’s your life.

Then when you get to it ask yourself what you feel like doing?

Give yourself time to answer and listen to the little voice.

Don’t dismiss it if you think it is a strange idea or not what you imagined as ‘rest’. If you have not listened to yourself for a while it might be a very little voice, a fleeting thought or sensation but the more you listen the stronger it will get, the more in touch you will be with your intuition, yourself, inimitably You.

Listen, you may want to walk down the road, eat some cherries, read a childhood book, go to bed for 20 minutes, rub your feet, pick something off this list.

Do it and release the guilt and enjoy. This is important.

We all desire happiness and joy, so have some now.

You can’t help others without taking care of you so we can release that worry and expand into our present space.

This will lead to better sleep when you hit the pillow at the day’s end. 

8. Add Adventure

Try getting outside, and get some fresh air, and hopefully some sunlight, for a break that will be a body (and later a sleep) booster.

You could take your tea, or meditation practice out there too. Enjoy the air.

Often we spend too much time in air conditioned or closed window places and this can make us sleepy and grumpy.

Inside, open some windows if that is possible and include some nice air cleaning plants – I choose round leafed ones as much as possible as we have found that spiky-leafed plants can make a spiky atmosphere.

I like rubber plants, spider plants, Boston ferns, ivy, aloe vera, orchids and lovely peace lilies. Go outside and breathe deeply. Pull up your sleeves and enjoy some vitamin D – for 15 minutes if you can on as much skin as possible bearing in mind sun safety. Even on a grey day things are often nicer outside than you think, wrap up and enjoy the – we are going to call it fresh and bracing rather than cold – weather!

Go outside and breathe deeply. Pull up your sleeves and enjoy some vitamin D – for 15 minutes if you can on as much skin as possible bearing in mind sun safety. Even on a grey day things are often nicer outside than you think, wrap up and enjoy the – we are going to call it fresh and bracing rather than cold – weather!

Even on a grey day things are often nicer outside than you think, wrap up and enjoy the – we are going to call it fresh and bracing rather than cold – weather!

9. Breathing Blessings

There are so many variations on this and it is worth exploring and finding ones you resonate with and new ones to try to keep your practice fresh.

You can look into mindfulness, pranayama, different forms of meditation, biofeedback, visualisation, guided meditation, Buddhist meditation and many others.

For now try breathing in a light the colour of your choice, whatever you need right now will come to you (but gold is always a good general life force/ healing/ love/ God light colour) and see yourself breathing out negativity – smoke, dark colours, pain etc. See the gold fill you up and the darkness become less and less and feel this is so.

See the gold fill you up, the darkness become less and less and feel this is so.

10. Make a Hammock Mindset

If you do not have a hammock to enjoy then you can create one. Hammocks are places just for relaxation, they are not for anything else.

We can create a space which is just for relaxation, which is what hammocks are and why they are relaxing. L

ie outside on a blanket or inside have a special blanket to lie on or under that is just for your relaxation periods.

Gradually you will associate the blanket or space with relaxation and it will be relaxing just to be near it.

What are your favourite tips to sleep well? Share in the comments.

Full Disclosure: I am an affiliate for N:Rem mattresses because I have found their mattress so helpful. N:Rem provided me with a sample mattess foam pads to trial, but all views are my own.

Photo of coastline, text: Trailblazer Interview- Tiffany Kairos on Epilepsy Mindfulness, Compassion & Action

Today we are hearing from Tiffany Kairos Care-Rose,  the founder of The Epilepsy Network (TEN).

TEN’s mission is to educate, advocate and provide hope to all who have been affected by epilepsy. Tiffany has lived with epilepsy for eight years to date.

In this Trailblazer Interview we talk about: 

– How to move forward and build a life with a condition that can make the future unpredictable.

– How to keep positive after seizures happen (or any other unexpected health flare or challenge that might affect someone) and how you’ve managed to make peace with a repetitive condition.

– How Tiffany used her challenge to blaze her trail and make the path easier for others

– The one thing people can do today to reclaim their life when they live with a similar condition.

N.B: For accessibility purposes, this interview is offered as a video, a podcast (audio) and a transcript. It’s all the same content.

If you’d like to support increasing these interviews accessibility by being offered in languages other than English, please feel free to donate below. Thank you.


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Download and read the transcript:

Trailblazer Interview- Tiffany Kairos on Epilepsy Mindfulness, Compassion and Action Transcript

How do you handle unpredictable life experiences? Let me know in the comments!

P.S You may also like Trailblazer Interviews: Accessible Yoga for All to check out more Trailblazer Interviews here.

pril Trailblazing Resources: Fuel for your Healing Fire

The best of the wellness internet. Lovingly curated trailblazing healing resources for fun and wellness fabulousness to fuel your healing fire. Relax and dive in!

My favourite trailblazing healing resources, inspirations, proclamation and motivation this month.

Hard day? Needing a dose of comfort, support or ‘you’ve got this’ goodness? Try The Pep Talk Generator.

Three exercises for building resilience.

Have you heard talk of altars, personal sacred spaces and felt intrigued but mystified on the specifics? Check out this mega altar resource from Briana Saussy. Oh, and if you need something beautiful to listen to while building your altar/meditating/eating breakfast, Bri also made this beautiful aural blessings compilation.

Tift Meritt reminds me of Joni Mitchell in the best way.

Apparently, my TEDx talk is being shown in quite a few schools…this blows me away. Also, trailblazers, it never occurred to me that people might watch the video in groups, I’m kind of shy at the thought. But I’m glad they are getting meaning from it.

I found this perspective of the experience of being on the other end of the phone line when dealing with the DWP sorrowful and useful. And this perspective from the medical assessor tells how difficult it is on their side of the fence too. My experience of dealing with the DWP and the tips gained from it is here.

A reflection: to be disabled is to resist.

Disability if not a deficit and other truths in an ableist world.

The Unexpected Shape is so good and true!

My dear friend and amazing self-care advocate, Christy Tending, interviewed me in her fabulous Collective Care series here.

I love Mara’s work on rest.

If you like painting, have you seen this amazing library of free painting classes?

I so want to make wish beads. I love making wish stars too.

A relaxing routine for retrograde struggles. Speaking of retrogrades, Mercury and liminality, a fascinating article on a Jungian approach to mid-life.

Looking for a wellness reboot this summer? Check out Kayla’s gorgeous yoga retreat in Spain!

What resources are you loving at the moment? Let me know in the comments!

photograph of a close up of a bed, white linen sheets and a bunch of pink peonies laid on the right hand side. Pink circle overlay with black text: Self-Care Sunday: Compassion in Crisis. Guest post by Kayla Kurin GraceQuantock.com

[Self-Care Sunday Series: wellness experts worldwide are sharing their self-care expertise, practices, routines and personal stories. Today our guest post is by yoga therapist, teacher and health advocate for chronic illness, Kayla Kurin]

Life is often chaotic when living with a chronic illness. But am I the only one who feels the world is on the brink of collapse right now?

On top of our day to day stressors and energy drains, we’ve now got some extra frustrations looming over our heads. Some of our friends in the US and in the UK may be facing a loss of health coverage, and some may be facing discrimination circulating in our communities and online.

A lot of people are rallying together to protest, tweet, blog, and fight for the things they believe in. This is all great stuff, but I think now more than ever, taking care of yourself has to be your number 1 priority. After all, you can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first.

So how can we practice compassion to ourselves and others at a time like this?

How can we take a break from the snark and anxiety and fear and take care of ourselves?

Start with 10 minutes.

Take 10 minutes a day to breathe.

To meditate.

To do your yoga practice.

To read a work of fiction or a poem.

Allow yourself to block out the world and take care of yourself. Because when all seems lost in the world, we need to take more time to remember what is good. What is calming and leaves us feeling whole.

Start with 10 minutes a day:

Put it in your planner.

Set an alarm on your phone.

Tell your parents or your partner or your roommates that you’re not to be disturbed. Find a short yoga practice and shut yourself off from the world, just for a little bit.

Find a short yoga practice and give yourself a break from the world’s pain, just for a little bit.

And then take 5 more minutes:

Practice a loving-kindness meditation. Extend that self-compassion to others. Even to those you disagree with. Even to those threatening you, to those who may be infringing on your rights and your communities and your support systems.

Can you extend that self-compassion to others. Even to those you disagree with. Even to those threatening you, to those who may be infringing on your rights and your communities and your support systems, if that feels safe or useful for you.

Allow the time for each of these practices to slowly expand each week until you’re up to 30 minutes (or whatever amount of time feels right for you to dedicate to your self-care practice). That’s the time of one TV show to practice compassion and care for yourself and others. Most of us watch several TV programs a day, I’m sure you can cut back on one to allow yourself to relax and turn inwards.

When you’ve cultivated a self-care practice that feels right for you, then go back in the world and do what you need to do.

Go to doctor’s appointments, take care of your family, work or study, fight for what you believe in.

But when you practice self-care, whether it’s with yoga and meditation, or another activity of your choosing, you’ll go back into the world with more calmness, more energy, and more compassion for yourself and those around you.

As your fighting for your health, your rights, and your values, remember to please, take care of yourself.

Want to try it out now? Download a free 20 minute video from Aroga Yoga here today.

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By Kayla Kurin is a yoga therapist, teacher and health advocate, find her at ArogaYoga.com

How do you practice self-care in crisis? Let me know in the comments!

P.S Check out My Daily Practice with Kayla, making yoga accessible to all and the whole Self-Care Sunday series.

P.P.S If taking self-care time from these challenging issues is proving very difficult right now, or isn’t enough, if you need support, please be safe.

If you need to talk, call:

(UK & ROI) Samaritans – 116 123 (their new freephone number)

(USA) Suicide Prevention Life Line – 1-800-273-8255

(Australia) LifeLine – 13 11 14

Chronic Illness Self-Care Kit: Top Tools & Resources text on top of photo of vintage suitcases in pile

Today we get to talk about luggage.

Not gorgeous steamer trunks and vintage hat boxes (although I love those too), but the tools you need to pack to help you through your emotional journey.

Believe me, this is the good kind of baggage.

When you go travelling you pack what you will need, so we are not about to venture into our Forest of Emotions ill-equipped.

Why am I doing this again?

We are going to gather tools which help us manage our emotions and things that we can hold onto, should we get lost in the emotional forest, or hit by a grief-storm, for example.

Emotions can be processed, this isn’t neat, clinical or tidy, but when you feel you are being torn apart by say, anger or guilt, burying or breaking under it are not our only two options.

There are times when you are overwhelmed by feelings and just have no idea what to do but stare at the wall and writhe in emotional pain, so you just shove the struggles down into some box in your mind.

(Of course, they pop up later, usually at a difficult time when your life has broken apart and this has the nasty side effect of breaking down all those walls and hide holes in your head so all your unresolved issues come out to play. Which explains why you end up crying two days after a new diagnosis about the time you failed the exam and the boy who called you ugly in school – they are linked, sort of.)

Or have you had days when you’ve looked at the bottle, (or the TV, or the box of cakes) just to escape from your own head and the pain rattling around never-endingly inside it? You are not alone.

But there are better ways and that’s what we are talking about today.

But I’m not repressing or contemplating tequila shots right now

Yes, and so now is the time to pack.

We have emergency hospital bags, packed with books, spare clothes, meds, toothbrush, cash, vegan food, pens and paper and so on.

Because when an emergency happens, that is not the time to be dashing about the house trying to find cash to get a taxi to the hospital or throwing clothes around shouting ‘I know the good nightgown is here somewhere’.

The time to get things sorted is now, before an emergency. You don’t want to be in hospital in a nightie two sizes two small with a torn strap at the shoulder now do you? (I know, it’s the worst thing a good girl could imagine).

Your handy dandy self-care kit packing check-list:

Pick what you are drawn to from here, and don’t be afraid to explore something new…. these options are just the beginning.

Journaling – in journalling you take a book, a pad, a dictaphone and pour your emotions into it. You don’t have to chronicle your life, just write what comes, keep the pencil moving and if you get stuck write like you are writing a letter to a friend. I recommend this journalling course and check out my interview with the course founder, Esme Wang here.

Relaxation – this has many forms and The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook has most of them.

Meditations – again a huge topic but life changing. If you want to begin with a guided meditation, check out my meditation Wellness Provocateur Vlog here.

Energy work – everything from Reiki to energy clearing comes under this, but learning to be able to give yourself an energy treatment can be marvellously beneficial in so many situations. Begin by looking at your options and contacting the professional body like the UK Reiki Federation.

Grounding yourself – going outside can sometimes shift things amazingly. Make a practice of spending time outdoors, can you go for a walk or wheelchair ride, volunteer to walk a dog at a local sanctuary or grow a garden?

Art therapy – can express your emotions, store them, process them and invite deep healing.

Support groups – solidarity can help us feel like we fit in and are not alone. Find people who fit you and learn and grow together.

Aromatherapy – using essences of flowers and herbs, aromatherapy is a very powerful way to effect change on our emotions and all of our healing selves.

Counselling or coaching – if you’ve read this blog for a while, you will know I’m a big proponent of therapy. I’m so grateful there are people out there whose whole job it is to help me. People say they don’t go to therapy because of the money… I have seen therapists in two countries and six counties. Sometimes they were free and sometimes they were for reduced rates but when we needed help we always found a way. Call around, ask about subsidised counselling, get on the waiting list at your local MIND, call clinics and ask if there are any students working at reduced rates, enquire about sliding scales, offer barter. We can make it work.

Gratitude list – a gratitude practice can be revolutionary and shift your whole way of thinking. Begin with writing down three things every day you are grateful for. I bet that by the third month you are filling pages with gratitudes and feeling happier too.

A physical self-care kit – Healing Boxes CIC grew from here. It’s a box, a little like the emotional support box below, that you store your tools in. If you want us to build you a box to take on your healing journey Healing Boxes CIC can do just that, so click here.

Exercise – everything from dancing, tai chi, running and swimming goes here. Why not explore your options and pick something new, there are exercises available for all. For example, if you are bed bound, Feldenkrais might be perfect for you.

EFT – have you tried emotional freedom technique? Why not give it a go and see if it works for you?

Mindfulness – I recommend Breathworks CIC for all your mindfulness study. You can find their classes here. 

You need a repository

Exhale, I said a repository not a suppository, (I’m here all week, folks).

Anyway… how do we pack these tools?

(Well, firstly it would be helpful if you actually had an emergency bag as I’ve described above, a go-bag is a good idea.)

But the tools we are talking about today are listed below, and you pack them in two ways:

1. Create an Emotional Support Bag/Box – look at the list above and pick 5 or 6 things that you feel drawn to, and that you think would help you in an emergency and then get them set up now. So if you think aromatherapy would help you to relax when you are anxious, then read a book on it, see an aromatherapist, buy some oils and a way to use them – a burner, a diluted rub, and put it all in a physical box you can go to when your emotions overwhelm you. Your guided meditations and art therapy tools go in there too. And the contact details of support group helplines, your therapist’s phone number. You’ve got the first stage of your tool-kit packed, let’s celebrate you!

If you want to begin with a guided meditation, check out my meditation Wellness Provocateur Vlog here.

2. Choose Your Emotional Repository – decide on a day to day repository. One way we prevent emotions welling up into huge storms that sweep us off the path of our healing journey is by dealing with them in little bits daily. You need somewhere to put all the niggles and struggles that come up for you daily so they don’t overwhelm you. It could be a journal, a meditation practice, a pact to email your best friend every day. Whatever it is, pick a medium in which you can process and contain your emotions and then, darling-one, use it! It can be easy, that pain, that disappointment, that person who annoyed you, it doesn’t have to stay with you, dragging around your ankles as you try and go about your day. Just open up your journal and pour it all inside. You process as you re-tell and then you can move on.

Building a practice

So you’ve picked the tools you want to use to support you on the emotional forest journey, not we need to learn how to use them.

Believe me, practice is your secret weapon for survival.

We can’t be going out of our minds with grief and then grab a yoga mat for the first time and expect the asanas to calm us. It just doesn’t work like that. Practice is what makes these tools work.

On the bad days, it’s practice we rely on. So get into the pose for qi gong or take your yoga mat or your dancing shoes and do your thing. It’s our practice that carries us forward when things are bleak.

Learning to fall

In judo we learn to fall well. Ukemi is the art of meeting the mat. Learn it now and it becomes muscle memory, when life pushes you, you’ll tuck your head and slam the ground on the way down, breaking the impact.

Let’s learn to do this in our emotional lives.

Your practice…

* Is something to lean on during bad days,

* Is something familiar and comforting when everything seems lost,

* Is something that your body and mind associate with relaxation and good emotions,

* Is something accessible that you can take anywhere with you.

(I’ve done yoga in hospital waiting rooms, in car parks, on street pavements, parks, train stations, during a blackout and in other people’s kitchens.)

And then all hell broke loose

Some things go beyond all we know and all we ever anticipated. Crises rip us out of everything and we can no longer bring ourselves to swallow food. To do sitting meditation is as far away as walking to the moon.

In these places we are shattered and the more we hang onto the past pieces the harder it is.

But here is the secret. Through our practice we have become malleable, we have built strength, developed a strong core and our soul cannot be lost even though our world is shattered.

We come out of it, allow ourselves to emerge a new person.

When we fall, we fall into space we have created, support around us, there is a place in which to heal should we need it.

Phoenix fire fighting

Sometimes a challenge comes into our life and it seems to eat us alive.

I always compare diagnosis to a phoenix fire because it burns away all we know but we have the opportunity to allow it to burn away all we don’t want and to use the pain to emerge a new self, more burnished and beautiful than ever before.

I believe in you (but you don’t have to)

Before you begin, know that moving forward doesn’t necessarily require you to have confidence in yourself.

Right now, I only need you to believe in me, know that I am here, I have been down my own emotional path and come out the other side.

I am writing this with intention and compassion, hoping that it helps you. I am waiting here, hands outstretched, believing in you, hoping for you, holding your dreams tight for you, until you are ready to live them again.

Call to action

Make a decision to pack your tool bag.

Pick one option, now. Don’t wait to do it properly – one day – because you may never get there. Let loose the intuition and pick the option that stands out to you from the list above. Then take one step towards it today.

Share your pick and the step you are taking with us in the Wellness Trailblazers’ Cafe.

What’s in your toolkit? Let me know in the comments.

P.S You may also like How to Navigate the Emotional Tangles of Serious Illness (with Free E-Guide) and Solutions and Support for Emotional Struggles with Chronic Illness.